Tuesday, March 3, 2015

More Carver

AGENDA:

Read "Are These Actual Miles"

MORNING REFLECTION: Radezia


  

In the short story “Are These Actual Miles?Raymond Carver introduces a couple, that are trying to live the American dream, but can’t seem to live within their own means. Throughout the story, this couple struggles to be happy, emotionally and financially. This couple is faced with multiple situations that show how, as Ron Hansen puts it, “ethical grayness characterizes much of our human experiences”
From the beginning of the story, readers can clearly see that there are underlying problems within the couple’s relationship. When Toni goes out to convince a man to buy their car, “she puts on a new white blouse, wide lacy cuffs, the new two-piece suit, new heels”, clearly trying to impress the buyer (Carver 146). This detail in her appearance shows that she’s taken the time to look her best, making sure everything is perfect, even if it causes her to be late for the meeting. Is it because she wants to dress professionally, or is it because she wants to forget about the bankruptcy and enjoy an extravagant night out that she normally wouldn’t get?
Leo obviously knows how she sells– by flirting, maybe even by going a bit further, with the buyer. When she used to sell, “she signed him up [for children’s encyclopedias], even though he didn’t have kids” (Carver 146). This somehow led to them being married, which suggests that with Toni, there wasn’t really a line between persuasion and flirting with the customer. Just as the  wife is aware of how the use of her appearance can aide in her car sales, Leo is aware that she is using this very tactic. But he still lets her do it, because they are that deep in debt. This is where the ethical grayness comes in. Is it right that Toni should cheat on her husband since she’s the only one doing something to change their financial situation? Or is it right that Leo knows what’s about to happen, does not do anything to stop it, because he thinks the bankruptcy is his fault?
The readers can continually tell that there are more problems when Toni calls Leo, five hours after she left the house, and tells him she’s getting drinks with the businessman The fact that it takes five hours for Toni to meet the businessman and find a place to get drinks clearly shows the lack of communication within this couple’s relationship. Leo must suspect something, but he doesn’t ask–he doesn’t want to know the truth. This example shows that this couple obviously has communication problems. Leo, who has already “brought a woman home,” and Toni, who didn’t come home till dawn the next day, must have some idea what the other one is doing (Carver 147).They’re not addressing these issues, except Leo says, “We start over Monday. I mean it” (Carver 147). There are several instances in the story where Leo keeps repeating the word “Monday”. Monday is when the hearing is, and when Leo keeps repeating the word, to his wife, to the businessman, and to the readers, we recognize how important Monday really is. After Monday, what will happen with their possessions? What will happen to their marriage? This sentence shows the desperation to forget about everything that’s happened–the bankruptcy and the disloyalty. It’s like he’s telling Toni to do whatever tonight, it doesn’t matter, because they’re going to start over on Monday. This is most likely why he doesn’t ask Toni why it took five hours just to get drinks. Again, this shows the ethical grayness of the situation: does it make it okay for Toni to do whatever it takes to sell the car, even if it comes to adultery? Is it okay for Toni to cheat, since Leo already has?
A sense of anxiety and stress was portrayed throughout the entire story, which leads the readers to see how much stress Leo must’ve been feeling this entire time. One moment, they were living the high life– the next, they were bankrupt. “They buy what they want. If they can’t pay, they charge. They sign up” (Carver 148). This sentence characterizes the American Dream–they want what they can’t have. They want to provide a better life for their kids than what they had. Toni even mentions, “I had to do without when I was a kid…these kids are not going to do without” (Carver 148). So does that make it okay for them to purchase luxury items they can’t afford, if it makes their children have these items their parents didn’t have? Even Leo, feeling the pressure of keeping everything under control, admits “he is willing to be dead” (Carver 148). Is it okay for Leo to feel self pity for himself, because this situation frequently occurs? For Leo to surrender  because he’s lost control–with his money, his wife, his life–and he cannot gain it back?
Still, the question remains the same: Under certain circumstances, can what we perceive is wrong be changed into right? This is essentially the “ethical grayness” that Hansen has mentioned before, and this is the main question that occurs throughout most of the story.
Continue to work on speculative fiction

HMWK:  Finish reading Carver short stories

15 comments:

  1. This poem was extremely expressive as well as effective in addressing an overlooked modern issue. The tone and force of the presenter was what truly made the video work. It always seems to be a good sign when the mic seems to shatter under their tremendous voice. The detail in the poem marks an issue that never seems to go away, parallel to that of the delivery to the audience. The trembling in the speakers voice really adds to bringing the moral issue across to the audience. This SLAM poem may be one of my favorites in terms of expression, as the poet really comes off as truly sad in her delivery and the pure existence of such mistakes.

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  2. This morning reflection was interesting. I liked how passionate she was about her poetry and her performance. The theme that she chose is very taboo, but she did it well. You can tell that she means what she said and I hope that when people watch this they realize that this is a very big issue that is not addressed enough.

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  3. The persona she put on was very effective in that it offered an extremely personal outlook on the relationship between an unborn child and a struggling mother. Slam poetry can be so powerful and such a profound way of speaking and commenting on such serious aspects of life.

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  4. The spoken word was very in depth and meaningful. The topic of abortion was very well represented and how the poem was illustrated through the eyes of the fetus and not the mother was very intelligent . Also how the narrator described the history of its mother as to give a sense of understanding was very moving.

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  5. I think that spoken word poems can be very powerful and would like to someday try my hand at it. It takes a lot to spill such strong feelings out in front of a crowd. There are a lot of women slam poets who write about heavy subject matters, such as the one Radezia shared with us this morning. It is exactly why we need feminism. We need to lift up and support our women and girls and stop the abuse.

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  6. Radezia had already showed me this video before however it was still amazing to watch. This spoken word poem was very descriptive and used very gory situations but at the same time it was realistic and intriguing to listen to a young woman's story. Poems like this often make me think about how hard some people really have it on, even on a daily basis. It's a friendly reminder of why we shouldn't judge people based on the aura they give us and how they appear.

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  7. I really liked this poem, it was really powerful and it touched me. She was so passionate and showed so much emotion. This poem could really change peoples opinion on abortion.

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  8. A woman should have the right to her own body. Pro-life or pro-choice.

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  9. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QP-PpfIfWzI

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  10. it was very emotional and it effected me personally because I know that the stories she spoke really do happen in real life; many go unspoken and left deep in the dark souls of those who have been through the traumatizing and unfair treatment.

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  11. I really liked Radezia's video. It touched on a subject that people like to avoid talking about. The girl speaking let her emotion show through her performance. I really liked how it was from the point of view of the baby. It was different from what I am used to.

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  12. i liked the poem; it was a strong one. It's sad about how the baby wasn't planned, and might be aborted. While carrying the product of rape or abuse, it can make healing harder. The problem with abortion is it also makes healing hard, with a guilty conscious to go along with it. It can vary depending on the person, but I think it would be a friendlier option to carry the baby.

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  13. i liked the poem; it was a strong one. It's sad about how the baby wasn't planned, and might be aborted. While carrying the product of rape or abuse, it can make healing harder. The problem with abortion is it also makes healing hard, with a guilty conscious to go along with it. It can vary depending on the person, but I think it would be a friendlier option to carry the baby.

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  14. This is incredibly powerful, as it offers different perspectives on abortion. It is interesting because it is such a personal topic and not many people understand how to talk about it. I find it inspirational because she is so willing to express herself, ande thats what poetry is really all about.

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  15. This is incredibly powerful, as it offers different perspectives on abortion. It is interesting because it is such a personal topic and not many people understand how to talk about it. I find it inspirational because she is so willing to express herself, ande thats what poetry is really all about.

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